When we keep saying yes to others we in turn keep saying no to ourselves. No to our time, our desires, our growth, our self-care and our peace. Unfortunately, society has a funny way of making those who do not constantly say yes to their wants an enemy. You must give and give without question, but of course the reciprocal should not be expected. It has become okay to punish those who say no because it doesn’t fit one’s narrative or expectation of you. It has become okay to punish those who uphold their integrity.
The fact that many have come to this state of mind that either we agree with them or we are by default against them shows the true selfishness and entitlement that guides the hearts of those who lack awareness, accountability and authenticity. Understanding does not equate agreement. Disagreement does not equate anti-____. One should not sacrifice their dignity to protect someone else’s credibility, views or image. One can still love others and correct them. Catering to others expectations of you is not okay. Saying no; however, is okay. Setting boundaries is good and necessary. And if others cannot respect those boundaries then it is okay to let them go. Because whether they admit it or not, they are definitely setting boundaries with you.
And the sad part is that those who are quick to close the door on someone else immediately due to conflicting beliefs has actually just destroyed an opportunity to bridge a gap in understanding and tear down a wall that continues to divide us. This just exacerbates the issue and prolongs positive change. But hey, who am I but just one voice in this very big and chaotic world.
Tag: people
Gum
So many of us spend our lives today trying not to offend the next person, not realizing we are slowly losing ourselves in the process. We try to be this good person that everyone sees and act like their approval will save us. We hear but we don’t listen. We say so much and nothing in the same breath. Our goals and passions are superficial because of what we want others to see. Logical situations and ideas are not really logical, they’re common, so that’s what we go by. If we really want to make a difference then why do we try so hard to please? I mean not one of the men God chose was immune to earthly scrutiny, so why would anyone base their accomplishments off of how many people acknowledge them? Like one’s body, you get out what you put in. Unfortunately, it seems like chewing gum still remains the popular trend. So sweet at first bite, the flavor and enjoyment lasts only for a moment. Slowly sucking out the sustenance within our bodies and leaving our stomachs empty, we fail to realize the infection we have created within our minds. Damaging each other just to keep from growing up, but so quick to help when someone asks us for a piece of gum.
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